Posts Tagged ‘emotional intelligence’
Fake what?
In the adage, “fake it til you make it”, it’s important to clarify the “it”. The it to be faked is different than the it to be made. There are “it”s worth faking. Overcoming limiting beliefs to show yourself what you’re made of by faking a feeling for a short time is an example. If…
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Notice, learn, do.
Noticing what you notice is a powerful practice. It begins the process of learning what there is to learn. But too many us who have finally begun to notice themselves noticing the world are not taking the second step of doing what needs to be done. Say what needs to be said. Share what needs…
Read MoreSelf-empathy
To master empathy we focus on mastering the ability to give ourselves empathy. This means trusting ourselves enough to know that it’s valid to feel how we feel in the face of people, situations, and news that challenge us. It requires remembering that one of the greatest strategies to get our needs met is to…
Read MoreAlways training
We are always preparing for the next challenge life brings us. I recommend using the “good” moments between the “rough patches” as active rest between the sets. We can work on our physical and mental mobility to build resilience. Train our ability to give empathy for others and ourselves so we can hold space when…
Read MoreInherent interference
When I look at something beautiful I don’t want to think about my eyeballs. When I say something from my heart I don’t want to think about the words. But there is an inherent interference pattern at every step of every process that involves the sharing of information. I experienced this tension when living and…
Read MoreRise and fall
Nights and days fall victim to the sun as it rises and falls. Remember that the sun barely moves and it’s the Earth that spins. Emotions also come and go. Perspective can change everything.
Read MoreConnection Strategy
Anytime we find ourselves in conflict, it’s best to focus on and clear our side of it first. A strategy to begin resolving most conflict from our side of the net is to ask the following questions in your mind: 1) What would all of this look like if it was easy? 2) When I’m…
Read MoreThirst for empathy
When someone shares with us a struggle that they’re encountering, it’s similar to someone telling us they’re thirsty. Telling the first person how to fix their problem when they didn’t ask for your advice is like throwing water at the thirsty person when they’re not looking. Coaching or guiding them with questions is like holding…
Read MoreAre you the convex or the concave?
Two bones articulate to form a joint. Each of them is shaped to accommodate the other and to allow the movement that the joint is designed for. In most joints, the end of one bone is convex and the end of the other is concave. Neither the convex nor the concave is the right or…
Read MoreListening is relational proprioception
Proprioception is the perception or awareness of the position and movement of your body. The reason this is important is that you use this information to guide your decision making about position and movement. As you walk, it is proprioception that tells you the shape and firmness of the ground and helps guide appropriate motor…
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