Posts Tagged ‘emotional intelligence’
Feeling Full vs Inflamed
If you just ate a meal and think you’re full, notice where you feel the sensations of being full. Depending on where you feel the sensations, you might be confusing the feeling of full with the experience of being inflamed. When you’re full, your face is relaxed, the muscles of your arms and legs have…
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Conducting health
The conductor of an orchestra is typically not as skilled at playing the violin as the 1st chair violinist. The conductor is the expert at directing the performance of the orchestra as a whole. She knows when the violin should come in and fade out. She recognizes when an on beat quaver pattern from the…
Read MorePresence is a practice.
Presence and mindfulness must be cultivated. There are nerves and muscles to be trained for creating space within yourself. Here’s an exercise you can do. It is best enjoyed with a loved one, even if that means looking yourself in the mirror. Sit across from your partner. Take one bite of dark chocolate. And get…
Read MoreHelping people see
Imagine you are visually blind. Close your eyes and take a few steps while asking yourself the following questions: Is the ground even or uneven? Soft or squishy? Dry or wet? Is the horizon still horizontal or did it flip vertically? Are you walking straight ahead or turning? To answer these questions blindly, you use…
Read MoreLoss
Amidst the steady nature of life, we all inevitably experience the time-stopping moment of a loss. We lose material items that we thought we needed. We lose jobs that we thought defined us. We lose loved ones who we thought we couldn’t live without. Then here we are… without them. In the first moments, it…
Read MoreThe hierarchy of mastery
Like progressing through Maslow’s hierarchy of human needs toward self- actualization, a professional ascends a hierarchy of skillsets on their way toward creating their works of art, sharing their masterpieces, or delivering their unparalleled service. As it goes with Maslow’s needs, mastery of the lower fundamental levels unlocks and sustains possibility to perform at higher…
Read MoreNobody can make you feel
Nobody can make you feel wrong. Nobody can make you feel stupid. Nobody can make you feel. You’re more powerful than that. 1) You notice someone do something. 2) Your mind gives meaning to what they did and determines if it contributes to your life, or doesn’t. 3) Then you feel. When you take ownership…
Read MoreThe Weak End
When starting a new diet, the easiest part is typically the first few days that lead up to the first weekend (aka the “weak end”). This is when you start to think, “this diet is hard.” In the days leading up to the ” weak end”, we have the structure and routine of our work…
Read MoreContribution
When your ancestors traveled in tribes, it’s hard to believe that the equivalent of the modern day couch potato would have been allowed to suck up resources without contributing to the lives of the other tribe members. Multiply this over millennia and you have the need for contribution built-in as a survival mechanism to the…
Read MoreI hope you fail.
You’re trying something new. Something healthier. Something you hope makes your life better or improves the lives of others. Since this is new, you will fail at some point, I hope. THE FAILURE is the sign that you’re doing something right!!! It’s a milestone that you must achieve if you are truly pushing yourself beyond…
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