Posts Tagged ‘listening’
Peeling back layers by listening
Healing is facilitated to deeper layers when level 5 listening occurs. The level of listening that is infused with focus and care. Where we perceive beyond the words we’re hearing and fully commit to care for the human having the experience we’re witnessing. One of the mechanisms of the healing is that this level of…
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The gift of held space
Held space is a gift that can be challenging to give and also rarely consciously received in the moment that it’s happening. The silent practice of allowing a person to thrash with their thoughts, hunt for clarity in their emotional labyrynth, and test a perspective without passing judgment or jumping to solutions is often the…
Read MoreThe five stages of listening
1. Blocking out ie, noise cancelling headphones, removing ability to receive any input 2. Perception: ie, hearing but giving no attention, hearing a car drive by but not paying attention to it. A child can hear a mom call their name, but pay no attention. 3. Attention Physically showing interest, but cognitively thinking about something…
Read MoreFinding presence
Lying in bed trying to fall asleep. Holding my son when he cries at night. Floating in the moment before I adjust someone after learning that they had just lost a parent. There are many moments in life that are made better when experienced with presence. And by no accident these are the most difficult…
Read MoreLess is more
To paraphrase the laws of supply and demand, As availability of a resource rises its value drops. This typcially applies to economics. It also applies to communication. Think of the wise people we meet who seem to hardly speak. When they finally share their thoughts we focus wholeheartedly on their every word. We then spend…
Read MoreThe listening funnel
A typical sales funnel is leaky. You say something to a group of people. Some of them say “tell me more” and move deeper into the funnel. Others leak out the sides and leave. Then deeper down the funnel, some say “go on…” and some leak out and lose interest. Again, tell me more. Again,…
Read MoreMeasure twice, serve once.
1) What is your vision? 2) What is the vision of those you want to help? How can you align the two so that every one of your actions contributes to both? Those that contribute the most don’t contribute more than others. They align their contributions so that their contributions to others contribute to their…
Read MoreThirst for empathy
When someone shares with us a struggle that they’re encountering, it’s similar to someone telling us they’re thirsty. Telling the first person how to fix their problem when they didn’t ask for your advice is like throwing water at the thirsty person when they’re not looking. Coaching or guiding them with questions is like holding…
Read MoreAre you the convex or the concave?
Two bones articulate to form a joint. Each of them is shaped to accommodate the other and to allow the movement that the joint is designed for. In most joints, the end of one bone is convex and the end of the other is concave. Neither the convex nor the concave is the right or…
Read MoreListening is relational proprioception
Proprioception is the perception or awareness of the position and movement of your body. The reason this is important is that you use this information to guide your decision making about position and movement. As you walk, it is proprioception that tells you the shape and firmness of the ground and helps guide appropriate motor…
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