Posts Tagged ‘advocacy’
Thirst for empathy
When someone shares with us a struggle that they’re encountering, it’s similar to someone telling us they’re thirsty. Telling the first person how to fix their problem when they didn’t ask for your advice is like throwing water at the thirsty person when they’re not looking. Coaching or guiding them with questions is like holding…
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The opposition
When we make change, we are bound to experience resistance. This is a sign that we doing something right. Opposing forces in nature are often described as such, as if they are in opposition. In reality, the tension created by resistance holds the potential energy that has caused any significant change throughout history. Gravity is…
Read MoreListening is relational proprioception
Proprioception is the perception or awareness of the position and movement of your body. The reason this is important is that you use this information to guide your decision making about position and movement. As you walk, it is proprioception that tells you the shape and firmness of the ground and helps guide appropriate motor…
Read MoreThe effort behind the effortlessness
We all know someone who seems to make healthy decisions without a second thought. Even when inconvenienced they rise to the occasion with composure. They mentally massage menus to coax out meals that match their mission. They fit in the time to stay fit. They set goals, achieve them, and make it look easy. How…
Read MoreThe inefficient effectiveness of 1-to-1
In a world where it’s easier to send a mass email, easier to make it easier, and less likely that our connections-made become connections-maintained, the law of supply-and-demand increases the value on choosing to do the emotional labor of helping where you’re needed. Before you decide where you are best positioned to serve your community,…
Read MoreHelping people see
Imagine you are visually blind. Close your eyes and take a few steps while asking yourself the following questions: Is the ground even or uneven? Soft or squishy? Dry or wet? Is the horizon still horizontal or did it flip vertically? Are you walking straight ahead or turning? To answer these questions blindly, you use…
Read MoreThe point of the game
If your goal is to get someone to do something that doesn’t serve them for your own personal gain then every time you win, you both lose. You may win a point, but that’s not the point of the game. You lose integrity. They lose trust in humanity. Instead of putting effort into manipulating people…
Read MoreLoss
Amidst the steady nature of life, we all inevitably experience the time-stopping moment of a loss. We lose material items that we thought we needed. We lose jobs that we thought defined us. We lose loved ones who we thought we couldn’t live without. Then here we are… without them. In the first moments, it…
Read MoreNobody can make you feel
Nobody can make you feel wrong. Nobody can make you feel stupid. Nobody can make you feel. You’re more powerful than that. 1) You notice someone do something. 2) Your mind gives meaning to what they did and determines if it contributes to your life, or doesn’t. 3) Then you feel. When you take ownership…
Read MoreThe greatest service
Your profession, technique, or application is only one element of your service. Who you are, who you are becoming, and how you move through the process is your greatest service. Just like kids will do as you do and not as you say, the biggest impact you have on the lives of those you serve…
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