The tide of trust
Personal development, leadership, communication, impact, health. The path for all of them is simple, but not easy. Be present. Care deeply. Listen with focus. Reflect and validate. Act in ways that honor yourself and others. Repeat. If we master moving down this path, the tide of trust will lift all boats.
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The five stages of listening
1. Blocking out ie, noise cancelling headphones, removing ability to receive any input 2. Perception: ie, hearing but giving no attention, hearing a car drive by but not paying attention to it. A child can hear a mom call their name, but pay no attention. 3. Attention Physically showing interest, but cognitively thinking about something…
Read MoreRenting and buying time
This morning, I rode my bike to work and accidentally took the keys to the car that Monica and I share. After considering options, I decided to hire a direct Uber and, instead of riding as a passenger, I handed my keys to the driver and he drove them to their home. I rented the…
Read MoreLose to win
Those who fail the most win. There are a few caveats: You must learn from each failure. You must not fail the same way repeatedly. You must not fail in a way that kills you (obviously), bankrupts you, or knocks you out of whatever game you are playing. If you mind the caveats, you fail,…
Read MoreSeeing ourselves in nature
The more we spend time in nature the more we see ourselves as a part of it. The more time we spend on our mobile devices the more we stop seeing ourselves at all.
Read MoreKey Performance Indicators
There are X and Y axes for a successful career. The x-axis is time and the y-axis is what you choose to measure, usually profit (business) or income (individual). There are also X and Y axes for a fulfilling life. The x-axis is time and the Y-axis is both trust with people you care about…
Read MoreTrust is a feeling
I notice what I notice. The facial expression. The tone of voice. The body language. The hand gestures. The angle of the shoulders. The whites of the eyes. The stories (thoughts) I tell myself about what these things mean to me. I feel what I feel. A softening of the muscles in my forehead. A…
Read MoreIntermittent abstinence
The first time I tasted a croissant from Ariscault in SF, I was mind blown. When I went back the next day, it was still amazing. When I went every day for a week at one point, it was really good. Too much of an incredible thing can desensitize us to the stimulus. Purposely inserting…
Read MoreWhen we’re bad at meditating…
It’s still worth it. If you go to see the Sistine Chapel, and it’s a crowded day, it’s still worth it. If you go eat at Tartine Bakery in SF, and the line is around the corner, it’s still worth it. To even recognize that there is something on the other side of the distractions…
Read MoreThe concept of anger is either hated or loved. It is both blamed for the worst violence in the world and also praised for the most inspiring protest against such violence. And like most things that draw out such intense emotions, it is mostly often misunderstood. To uncover the gift of anger is to see…
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