Posts Tagged ‘trust’
Trust is a feeling
I notice what I notice. The facial expression. The tone of voice. The body language. The hand gestures. The angle of the shoulders. The whites of the eyes. The stories (thoughts) I tell myself about what these things mean to me. I feel what I feel. A softening of the muscles in my forehead. A…
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The concept of anger is either hated or loved. It is both blamed for the worst violence in the world and also praised for the most inspiring protest against such violence. And like most things that draw out such intense emotions, it is mostly often misunderstood. To uncover the gift of anger is to see…
Read MoreInk in the pen.
Don’t wait until you’re hungry to go shopping. Your choices will be irrational and will often cost you more. Don’t choose what time you will wake up when you’re exhausted and about to go to bed. You may confuse what your priorities are. If you want to start trusting yourself and accomplishing higher levels of…
Read MoreCutting corners
When you cut a corner while driving the outcome and side effects depend on the situation. The hopeful outcome of the driver is usually to save time and energy. That’s why corners get cut. This outcome is not guaranteed as I will mention later. However, even if the corner is successfully cut and a second…
Read MoreMixed messages
If someone is looking you in the eye with a furrowed brow and a snarled lip and says, “Everything’s gonna be fine, trust me.” When a car in front of you has a Jesus fish on the bumper and a punisher symbol dripping blood stuck on the back window. When you ask someone how they…
Read MoreThe master of change
You want to be able to wow someone with your service. Perhaps you’ve seen masters change people’s lives with their craft and you want to be serving on that level. You know you have all the tools, but there is something unseen to you that is holding you back from unleashing the magic of those…
Read MoreBoogers
If you have a nose, and it is in working order, you will get boogers. If you have friendships, and they are in working order, your friends will tell you when you have boogers. This is because friends care. When they notice something that threatens your well-being, like a booger threatens the sincerity of a…
Read MoreThirst for empathy
When someone shares with us a struggle that they’re encountering, it’s similar to someone telling us they’re thirsty. Telling the first person how to fix their problem when they didn’t ask for your advice is like throwing water at the thirsty person when they’re not looking. Coaching or guiding them with questions is like holding…
Read MoreListening is relational proprioception
Proprioception is the perception or awareness of the position and movement of your body. The reason this is important is that you use this information to guide your decision making about position and movement. As you walk, it is proprioception that tells you the shape and firmness of the ground and helps guide appropriate motor…
Read MoreThe point of the game
If your goal is to get someone to do something that doesn’t serve them for your own personal gain then every time you win, you both lose. You may win a point, but that’s not the point of the game. You lose integrity. They lose trust in humanity. Instead of putting effort into manipulating people…
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