Posts Tagged ‘trust’
Expectations and threats
Some of the most interesting aspects about needs being met or unmet are the elements of perception and expectation. If we had expected that our need would be met in a moment and then we perceived that it was not, there will be a physiological response that we may have experienced previously in the face…
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Strategy and tactic for triggers
Questions from The Trust Workshop: What strategies help you build a lot of energy, when you feel empty but really need to be present very soon? First I’d like to distinguish between strategy and tactic. A strategy describes where we are trying to go and how we’re going to get there, while a tactic is…
Read MorePeeling back layers by listening
Healing is facilitated to deeper layers when level 5 listening occurs. The level of listening that is infused with focus and care. Where we perceive beyond the words we’re hearing and fully commit to care for the human having the experience we’re witnessing. One of the mechanisms of the healing is that this level of…
Read MoreEither-or… both
I hear a common thread among friends and colleagues related to wanting a focused connection with family or peers instead of explaining choices related to diet. Reasons mentioned have been that the people we care about won’t understand, it will take to much energy, and it will distract from the quality of connection. I deal with this…
Read MoreQ&A from The Trust Workshop – Dishonesty
The following was inspired by a question I received within The Trust Workshop regarding dishonesty: The question, paraphrased: “When someone is dishonest, how do I know their intention without them telling me? And if their intention doesn’t serve my needs, do I just the let it go even if I feel hurt that someone lied…
Read MoreGenerous tension
When you shoot a basketball, there is a tension you feel while the ball is in the air. An expectation and hope that is goes in. A release of the tension when it does. Expectation brings tension. Making a promise builds expectation, and therefore, tension. A generous tension, as long as we follow through on…
Read MoreInvesting in health
Many people who sell a health service, like chiropractic, struggle with “taking people’s money”. I want to offer a shift in wording (perspective). Rather than taking their money, we are offering them a place to invest their money. Most bank accounts give little to no retur Investing in a service provided by a skilled professional…
Read MoreThe gift of held space
Held space is a gift that can be challenging to give and also rarely consciously received in the moment that it’s happening. The silent practice of allowing a person to thrash with their thoughts, hunt for clarity in their emotional labyrynth, and test a perspective without passing judgment or jumping to solutions is often the…
Read MoreThe tide of trust
Personal development, leadership, communication, impact, health. The path for all of them is simple, but not easy. Be present. Care deeply. Listen with focus. Reflect and validate. Act in ways that honor yourself and others. Repeat. If we master moving down this path, the tide of trust will lift all boats.
Read MoreThe five stages of listening
1. Blocking out ie, noise cancelling headphones, removing ability to receive any input 2. Perception: ie, hearing but giving no attention, hearing a car drive by but not paying attention to it. A child can hear a mom call their name, but pay no attention. 3. Attention Physically showing interest, but cognitively thinking about something…
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