Posts Tagged ‘holding space’
The inefficient effectiveness of 1-to-1
In a world where it’s easier to send a mass email, easier to make it easier, and less likely that our connections-made become connections-maintained, the law of supply-and-demand increases the value on choosing to do the emotional labor of helping where you’re needed. Before you decide where you are best positioned to serve your community,…
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Helping people see
Imagine you are visually blind. Close your eyes and take a few steps while asking yourself the following questions: Is the ground even or uneven? Soft or squishy? Dry or wet? Is the horizon still horizontal or did it flip vertically? Are you walking straight ahead or turning? To answer these questions blindly, you use…
Read MoreThe point of the game
If your goal is to get someone to do something that doesn’t serve them for your own personal gain then every time you win, you both lose. You may win a point, but that’s not the point of the game. You lose integrity. They lose trust in humanity. Instead of putting effort into manipulating people…
Read MoreLoss
Amidst the steady nature of life, we all inevitably experience the time-stopping moment of a loss. We lose material items that we thought we needed. We lose jobs that we thought defined us. We lose loved ones who we thought we couldn’t live without. Then here we are… without them. In the first moments, it…
Read MoreNobody can make you feel
Nobody can make you feel wrong. Nobody can make you feel stupid. Nobody can make you feel. You’re more powerful than that. 1) You notice someone do something. 2) Your mind gives meaning to what they did and determines if it contributes to your life, or doesn’t. 3) Then you feel. When you take ownership…
Read MoreThe greatest service
Your profession, technique, or application is only one element of your service. Who you are, who you are becoming, and how you move through the process is your greatest service. Just like kids will do as you do and not as you say, the biggest impact you have on the lives of those you serve…
Read MoreThe Weak End
When starting a new diet, the easiest part is typically the first few days that lead up to the first weekend (aka the “weak end”). This is when you start to think, “this diet is hard.” In the days leading up to the ” weak end”, we have the structure and routine of our work…
Read MoreContribution
When your ancestors traveled in tribes, it’s hard to believe that the equivalent of the modern day couch potato would have been allowed to suck up resources without contributing to the lives of the other tribe members. Multiply this over millennia and you have the need for contribution built-in as a survival mechanism to the…
Read MoreI hope you fail.
You’re trying something new. Something healthier. Something you hope makes your life better or improves the lives of others. Since this is new, you will fail at some point, I hope. THE FAILURE is the sign that you’re doing something right!!! It’s a milestone that you must achieve if you are truly pushing yourself beyond…
Read MoreThr heroics of empathy
Two people in a conversation are standing in almost the exact same place in the world with almost the exact same set of environmental influences on their internal experience of the moment. Both people are looking into the other person’s eyes. Both of them are squinting. Both have a furroughed brow. One of them has…
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