Posts Tagged ‘holding space’
When we value the needs of others and act in ways that help them get their needs met, we all win. Having the presence and skills to choose what to share, how to share it, and when not to share empowers us to contribute authentically and use judgment regarding the aspects of our authenticity. Raising…
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The gift of held space
Held space is a gift that can be challenging to give and also rarely consciously received in the moment that it’s happening. The silent practice of allowing a person to thrash with their thoughts, hunt for clarity in their emotional labyrynth, and test a perspective without passing judgment or jumping to solutions is often the…
Read MoreWalking with a three-year-old
The secret to holding space, teaching, and coaching is embodied when you walk hand-in-hand with a three-year-old. The child has smaller steps. His curiosity is piqued more often. He stops to touch things that have drawn his focus every few steps. We contribute to a sense of belonging and safety by holding his hand gently…
Read More30 trillion cells, one common purpose
You not only have a body. You have thirty trillion cells. You not only have a purpose. You are the common purpose of your cells. You not only have a self. You are a cell in the body of Self. We have a common purpose.
Read MoreBoogers
If you have a nose, and it is in working order, you will get boogers. If you have friendships, and they are in working order, your friends will tell you when you have boogers. This is because friends care. When they notice something that threatens your well-being, like a booger threatens the sincerity of a…
Read MoreMeasure twice, serve once.
1) What is your vision? 2) What is the vision of those you want to help? How can you align the two so that every one of your actions contributes to both? Those that contribute the most don’t contribute more than others. They align their contributions so that their contributions to others contribute to their…
Read MoreConnection Strategy
Anytime we find ourselves in conflict, it’s best to focus on and clear our side of it first. A strategy to begin resolving most conflict from our side of the net is to ask the following questions in your mind: 1) What would all of this look like if it was easy? 2) When I’m…
Read MoreThirst for empathy
When someone shares with us a struggle that they’re encountering, it’s similar to someone telling us they’re thirsty. Telling the first person how to fix their problem when they didn’t ask for your advice is like throwing water at the thirsty person when they’re not looking. Coaching or guiding them with questions is like holding…
Read MoreAre you the convex or the concave?
Two bones articulate to form a joint. Each of them is shaped to accommodate the other and to allow the movement that the joint is designed for. In most joints, the end of one bone is convex and the end of the other is concave. Neither the convex nor the concave is the right or…
Read MoreListening is relational proprioception
Proprioception is the perception or awareness of the position and movement of your body. The reason this is important is that you use this information to guide your decision making about position and movement. As you walk, it is proprioception that tells you the shape and firmness of the ground and helps guide appropriate motor…
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