Posts Tagged ‘feelings’
Nobody can make you feel
Nobody can make you feel wrong. Nobody can make you feel stupid. Nobody can make you feel. You’re more powerful than that. 1) You notice someone do something. 2) Your mind gives meaning to what they did and determines if it contributes to your life, or doesn’t. 3) Then you feel. When you take ownership…
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Getting cut-off from the flows
The quintessential example of the modern day saber-toothed tigers is the person who cut you off in traffic. To understand why the nervous system responds with such intensity to this act, you have to become interested in the needs involved. Driving involves forcing a mass of metals to travel at velocity. It’s inherently powerful. Need…
Read MoreThe Weak End
When starting a new diet, the easiest part is typically the first few days that lead up to the first weekend (aka the “weak end”). This is when you start to think, “this diet is hard.” In the days leading up to the ” weak end”, we have the structure and routine of our work…
Read MoreContribution
When your ancestors traveled in tribes, it’s hard to believe that the equivalent of the modern day couch potato would have been allowed to suck up resources without contributing to the lives of the other tribe members. Multiply this over millennia and you have the need for contribution built-in as a survival mechanism to the…
Read MoreThr heroics of empathy
Two people in a conversation are standing in almost the exact same place in the world with almost the exact same set of environmental influences on their internal experience of the moment. Both people are looking into the other person’s eyes. Both of them are squinting. Both have a furroughed brow. One of them has…
Read MoreThe 90-second phenomenon
A three-year-old throws a tantrum about not wanting to go to sleep. He lies in bed wailing about wanting to do a laundry list of other things instead of getting rest. Each time the thought of sleeping re-enters his mind, a new emotional action potential spreads throughout his physiology. The boy’s dad lies with him…
Read MoreYou’re doing it wrong.
That’s how people let their loved ones know that they care, of course. That’s why so many people have a hard time maintaining new habits that they know are healthy when they are around their oldest friends or family. Culture that has developed over a long period of time within a peer group or a…
Read MoreThe Nows: Part 1-The Now-Now
Presence itself is vast. To make the concept of presence more manageable and practical, break “now” into ranges that more readily guide your thinking, planning, and action. Here are the Nows: The Now-Now The Micro-Now The Meso-Now The Macro-Now Today, let’s dive into the Now-Now. It’s easy, and even fun, to get carried away in…
Read MoreInviting emotional expression
As a chiropractor (person), having an intention to serve the person you are with is profoundly influential. It creates changes to your posture, facial expression, tone of voice and softness of touch. The person can see, hear, and feel your loving care. Often, this level of presence helps the person feel safe enough to express…
Read MoreFeeling good vs Being good at feeling
When a teenager is asked, “How are you feeling?” We hear one of two answers, “Good,” or “Fine.” The truth is that teenagers aren’t a trustworthy source of how they’re feeling. In order to know if you feel good, you must be good at feeling. The only thing the teenager is trying to say with…
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