Posts Tagged ‘emotional intelligence’
Change your brain, change your life
What we think, say, do, and focus on changes our brain. Between the moment that something happens and the moment that we respond, there is a space. In this space we have the chance to choose what we think, say, do, and focus on. It is in the space just beyond the stimulus that we…
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Strategy and tactic for triggers
Questions from The Trust Workshop: What strategies help you build a lot of energy, when you feel empty but really need to be present very soon? First I’d like to distinguish between strategy and tactic. A strategy describes where we are trying to go and how we’re going to get there, while a tactic is…
Read MorePeeling back layers by listening
Healing is facilitated to deeper layers when level 5 listening occurs. The level of listening that is infused with focus and care. Where we perceive beyond the words we’re hearing and fully commit to care for the human having the experience we’re witnessing. One of the mechanisms of the healing is that this level of…
Read MoreQ&A from The Trust Workshop – Dishonesty
The following was inspired by a question I received within The Trust Workshop regarding dishonesty: The question, paraphrased: “When someone is dishonest, how do I know their intention without them telling me? And if their intention doesn’t serve my needs, do I just the let it go even if I feel hurt that someone lied…
Read MoreWine tasting and emotions
Remember the last time you went wine tasting? The differences among the wines can be so subtle. Those who spend a life inquiring about those differences end up being able to name a grape, region, year, and sometimes even the winery from anywhere in the world. We have the same opportunity of inquiry with the…
Read MoreTrust is a feeling
I notice what I notice. The facial expression. The tone of voice. The body language. The hand gestures. The angle of the shoulders. The whites of the eyes. The stories (thoughts) I tell myself about what these things mean to me. I feel what I feel. A softening of the muscles in my forehead. A…
Read MoreThe concept of anger is either hated or loved. It is both blamed for the worst violence in the world and also praised for the most inspiring protest against such violence. And like most things that draw out such intense emotions, it is mostly often misunderstood. To uncover the gift of anger is to see…
Read MoreUse judgment when using judgments
Nouns get labeled as bad for different reasons, all of which have their origins in influence. One person (or group of people) wants another person (or group of people) to avoid thinking, saying, or doing something that they dislike. For example, a parent tells their kid that running with scissors is bad. In actuality, the…
Read MoreMy goodbyes
I have revisited the concept of saying goodbye, as mentioned in a previous post, repeatedly this year. I’ve said many goodbyes. Each one has been unique in meaning. All of them have been connected by the process of my integration. A process that helps me to savor what I loved about the people who are…
Read MoreGood good-byes
Loved ones who pass away. Best friends who move away. Life brings change. And we say goodbye to how things used to be. The question is not whether or not we say goodbye. The real question is, “How do we feel after the goodbye is said?” Because the quality of our goodbye is proportionate to…
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