Posts Tagged ‘ask questions’
Less is more
To paraphrase the laws of supply and demand, As availability of a resource rises its value drops. This typcially applies to economics. It also applies to communication. Think of the wise people we meet who seem to hardly speak. When they finally share their thoughts we focus wholeheartedly on their every word. We then spend…
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Grab your shovel to uncover your people
The people you serve best are buried in the bulldirt of the internet and waiting for you to find them. Questions that drive to heart of their needs and the empathy it takes to see the world from their eyes are your tools. They are your shovel. It’s not easy work, but when you dig…
Read MoreConnection Strategy
Anytime we find ourselves in conflict, it’s best to focus on and clear our side of it first. A strategy to begin resolving most conflict from our side of the net is to ask the following questions in your mind: 1) What would all of this look like if it was easy? 2) When I’m…
Read MoreThirst for empathy
When someone shares with us a struggle that they’re encountering, it’s similar to someone telling us they’re thirsty. Telling the first person how to fix their problem when they didn’t ask for your advice is like throwing water at the thirsty person when they’re not looking. Coaching or guiding them with questions is like holding…
Read MoreThe inefficient effectiveness of 1-to-1
In a world where it’s easier to send a mass email, easier to make it easier, and less likely that our connections-made become connections-maintained, the law of supply-and-demand increases the value on choosing to do the emotional labor of helping where you’re needed. Before you decide where you are best positioned to serve your community,…
Read MoreThe point of the game
If your goal is to get someone to do something that doesn’t serve them for your own personal gain then every time you win, you both lose. You may win a point, but that’s not the point of the game. You lose integrity. They lose trust in humanity. Instead of putting effort into manipulating people…
Read MoreThr heroics of empathy
Two people in a conversation are standing in almost the exact same place in the world with almost the exact same set of environmental influences on their internal experience of the moment. Both people are looking into the other person’s eyes. Both of them are squinting. Both have a furroughed brow. One of them has…
Read MoreInviting emotional expression
As a chiropractor (person), having an intention to serve the person you are with is profoundly influential. It creates changes to your posture, facial expression, tone of voice and softness of touch. The person can see, hear, and feel your loving care. Often, this level of presence helps the person feel safe enough to express…
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