Posts Tagged ‘advocacy’
Walking with a three-year-old
The secret to holding space, teaching, and coaching is embodied when you walk hand-in-hand with a three-year-old. The child has smaller steps. His curiosity is piqued more often. He stops to touch things that have drawn his focus every few steps. We contribute to a sense of belonging and safety by holding his hand gently…
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The tugboat and the lighthouse
Both provide a valuable service to others in need. The tug boat is maneuverable, powerful for its size, and can help disabled ships much larger than itself. It usually serves the harbors and typically helps one ship at a time by using force to tug, nudge, and push. Only some tugboats are ocean-going since most…
Read MoreScared that it won’t or scared that it will?
Some people say no to doing something new because they’re scared that it won’t work. More often we deny because of the fear that it will. And because if it does work we’ll have to face ourselves in that new reality. In light of information that shifts our perspective, we either change our status quo…
Read MoreNotice, learn, do.
Noticing what you notice is a powerful practice. It begins the process of learning what there is to learn. But too many us who have finally begun to notice themselves noticing the world are not taking the second step of doing what needs to be done. Say what needs to be said. Share what needs…
Read MoreSelf-empathy
To master empathy we focus on mastering the ability to give ourselves empathy. This means trusting ourselves enough to know that it’s valid to feel how we feel in the face of people, situations, and news that challenge us. It requires remembering that one of the greatest strategies to get our needs met is to…
Read MoreOn contribution: 34 words after 34 years on Earth
Identify (1) simple solutions (2) to unnoticed problems (3) that genuinely need to be solved, and (4) deliver them with language that can be received, (5) starting with a “shotty first draft”, then (6) repeat AOAP (as often as possible).
Read MoreThe master of change
You want to be able to wow someone with your service. Perhaps you’ve seen masters change people’s lives with their craft and you want to be serving on that level. You know you have all the tools, but there is something unseen to you that is holding you back from unleashing the magic of those…
Read MoreBoogers
If you have a nose, and it is in working order, you will get boogers. If you have friendships, and they are in working order, your friends will tell you when you have boogers. This is because friends care. When they notice something that threatens your well-being, like a booger threatens the sincerity of a…
Read MoreMeasure twice, serve once.
1) What is your vision? 2) What is the vision of those you want to help? How can you align the two so that every one of your actions contributes to both? Those that contribute the most don’t contribute more than others. They align their contributions so that their contributions to others contribute to their…
Read MoreConnection Strategy
Anytime we find ourselves in conflict, it’s best to focus on and clear our side of it first. A strategy to begin resolving most conflict from our side of the net is to ask the following questions in your mind: 1) What would all of this look like if it was easy? 2) When I’m…
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