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Q&A from The Trust Workshop – Dishonesty
The following was inspired by a question I received within The Trust Workshop regarding dishonesty: The question, paraphrased: “When someone is dishonest, how do I know their intention without them telling me? And if their intention doesn’t serve my needs, do I just the let it go even if I feel hurt that someone lied…
Read MoreMake new mistakes
If you remain teachable, mistakes are like seeds you plant in the soil of your subconscious that emerge later in life as lessons learned. With this in mind, the only real mistakes made are the ones we repeat after having learned the lesson previously. When you knowingly sabotage yourself by deciding to do what you…
Read MoreThe Nows: Part 2-The Micro-Now
For many, this is the only Now worth talking about or paying any attention to. It’s the topic of conversation among partners who ask nightly “how was today?” or co-workers who ask daily “how was last night?” or friends checking in with, “what are you up to tomorrow?” This is day-to-day life. Perhaps even, the…
Read MoreIn service of the long game
A good starting point for the long game of any endeavor is to identify who it is that you want to spend your life serving. What change do they hope to make in their lives? What promise can you make to them when they experience your service? What beliefs do they have? Continue to become…
Read MoreThe Nows: Part 1-The Now-Now
Presence itself is vast. To make the concept of presence more manageable and practical, break “now” into ranges that more readily guide your thinking, planning, and action. Here are the Nows: The Now-Now The Micro-Now The Meso-Now The Macro-Now Today, let’s dive into the Now-Now. It’s easy, and even fun, to get carried away in…
Read MoreInviting emotional expression
As a chiropractor (person), having an intention to serve the person you are with is profoundly influential. It creates changes to your posture, facial expression, tone of voice and softness of touch. The person can see, hear, and feel your loving care. Often, this level of presence helps the person feel safe enough to express…
Read MoreBalloon bellies
You were born with a balloon in your belly. This balloon is your greatest source of power. The power to generate power itself relies upon the integrity of your balloon. The coordination of your movements of digestion, circulation, and breath are influenced by its integrity. The balloon can be seen most clearly when barely concealed…
Read MoreFeeling good vs Being good at feeling
When a teenager is asked, “How are you feeling?” We hear one of two answers, “Good,” or “Fine.” The truth is that teenagers aren’t a trustworthy source of how they’re feeling. In order to know if you feel good, you must be good at feeling. The only thing the teenager is trying to say with…
Read MoreThe advocacy of influence
At 4AM in a labor and delivery suite of a recently built hospital, a midwife says “Relax your shoulders.” The laboring mother screams “I can’t. ” The midwife’s voice carries decades of wisdom and her hands the caress and confidence of 1,000 births as she affirms, “Yes, you can”. She lays her hands on the…
Read MoreTension draws attention
In the body, tension draws attention. In a state of ease, without tension drawing you away from the present, you can enter meditative or flow state. When you marvel at the world, you pay no attention to your eyes. When you heard your name as you crossed the stage, you paid no attention to your…
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