Expectations and threats

Some of the most interesting aspects about needs being met or unmet are the elements of perception and expectation. If we had expected that our need would be met in a moment and then we perceived that it was not, there will be a physiological response that we may have experienced previously in the face…

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It’s an absolute honor to witness what’s happening in The Trust Workshop and I feel humbled to have been a part of the beginning. I’m excited for the next phase, the next rounds, the next leaders who are connected to themselves and care about others in ways that can be heard, seen, and felt. Some…

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Dunning-Kruger Effect

When we overlay the stages of learnings with the Dunning-Kruger effect and then plot ourselves on the graph, we quicken our learning, prevent damaging actions, and gain a meta-cognition that preps us for our next phase.

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Re-covery

Most people try to recover from injury and trauma. They hit a dead end, throw it in reverse, and do it again. The same habits. The same decisions. The same hopes for a different outcome. Hitting dead ends is a part of life. An important part. Reversing away from the wall enough to see the…

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Flourishing

There are many paths to fulfillment. Most recently, I came across the work of Corey Keyes and the concept of flourishing. Imagine experiencing the 4 pillars of this concept what it would mean for the quality of our lives. Regularly experiencing positive emotions. Having a sense of purpose at meeting. Experiencing a degree of mastery…

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Mindful vs mind-full

To be mindful, all we need is to notice our breath. Within 10 seconds, we can focus on our breath, notice the moment that we lose that focus, and then bring the focus back once again to the breath. We are mindful. To be mind-full, all we need is to be breathing without noticing it.…

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Change your brain, change your life

What we think, say, do, and focus on changes our brain. Between the moment that something happens and the moment that we respond, there is a space. In this space we have the chance to choose what we think, say, do, and focus on. It is in the space just beyond the stimulus that we…

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Strategy and tactic for triggers

Questions from The Trust Workshop: What strategies help you build a lot of energy, when you feel empty but really need to be present very soon? First I’d like to distinguish between strategy and tactic. A strategy describes where we are trying to go and how we’re going to get there, while a tactic is…

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I promise to do my best

One of the most common ways for disagreement about whether a promise was kept or not is the inability to accurately measure whether it was fulfilled or not. Promises are like goals. Like SMART goals, SMART promises are more likely to be effective because they are measurable. A common example of a immeasurable promise: I…

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